Comments on: Death and Dying http://www.aradicalsabbatical.com/2009/03/25/death-and-dying/ Hearing loss, sabbatical, life, love, friendships and aging Thu, 09 Sep 2010 20:19:30 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.6.5 By: sydney http://www.aradicalsabbatical.com/2009/03/25/death-and-dying/#comment-237 sydney Mon, 25 May 2009 02:54:41 +0000 http://www.aradicalsabbatical.com/?p=106#comment-237 I loved this post. It was so interesting. I will come back for sure. Im gonna bookmark it. thanks I loved this post. It was so interesting. I will come back for sure. Im gonna bookmark it. thanks

]]> By: akljp http://www.aradicalsabbatical.com/2009/03/25/death-and-dying/#comment-228 akljp Wed, 01 Apr 2009 12:11:33 +0000 http://www.aradicalsabbatical.com/?p=106#comment-228 Wow! I am happy I found this page. My mother has suffered from Congestive Heart Failure for years and suffered a really bad stroke 3 months ago that left her with very little speech and swallowing. She refused the feeding tube over 10 times after my siblings and I begged her to get it. Now, she continues to dehydrate and deteriorate with bed sores and loosing over 50 pounds which have kept my family taking her back in forth to the hospital. It's just heartbreaking for all of us, but especially myself. My mother is on Morphine now and Hospice has taken over. My husband is a Marine and we have always been stationed 17 hours or more from my home town. Finally, we get stationed 12 hours from home and so happy about our kids getting to see and spend more time with their grandparents. Now, this happens and it's just so hard. I find myself crying all the time and feeling so guilty because I can't be there around the clock to help my sisters and brothers care for her. They get into arguments with one another about who is not doing their part to help, but then they apologized and work together for a while. I think it's just a combination of hurt and anger toward what's happening to our mother. It's one of the hardest things I have gone through since loosing my grandmother two years ago and felt the same way about not being there to spend more time with her. Sometimes I feel as if I won't live long because of so much heartache and stress. I have anxiety attacks and acid reflux. I have gone through three deployments to Iraq with my husband and it's just too much sometimes, but I keep my faith in God for the most. I really have no one to talk to, so this has really helped me to get this off of my heart. I pray for all of you that you find peace and hopefully I will also. Wow! I am happy I found this page. My mother has suffered from Congestive Heart Failure for years and suffered a really bad stroke 3 months ago that left her with very little speech and swallowing. She refused the feeding tube over 10 times after my siblings and I begged her to get it. Now, she continues to dehydrate and deteriorate with bed sores and loosing over 50 pounds which have kept my family taking her back in forth to the hospital. It’s just heartbreaking for all of us, but especially myself. My mother is on Morphine now and Hospice has taken over.
My husband is a Marine and we have always been stationed 17 hours or more from my home town. Finally, we get stationed 12 hours from home and so happy about our kids getting to see and spend more time with their grandparents. Now, this happens and it’s just so hard. I find myself crying all the time and feeling so guilty because I can’t be there around the clock to help my sisters and brothers care for her. They get into arguments with one another about who is not doing their part to help, but then they apologized and work together for a while. I think it’s just a combination of hurt and anger toward what’s happening to our mother. It’s one of the hardest things I have gone through since loosing my grandmother two years ago and felt the same way about not being there to spend more time with her. Sometimes I feel as if I won’t live long because of so much heartache and stress. I have anxiety attacks and acid reflux. I have gone through three deployments to Iraq with my husband and it’s just too much sometimes, but I keep my faith in God for the most. I really have no one to talk to, so this has really helped me to get this off of my heart. I pray for all of you that you find peace and hopefully I will also.

]]> By: Penquin http://www.aradicalsabbatical.com/2009/03/25/death-and-dying/#comment-227 Penquin Fri, 27 Mar 2009 00:49:13 +0000 http://www.aradicalsabbatical.com/?p=106#comment-227 Dear Sad, my mom has been sick for many years but she lived with my dad in an apartment near my brother and I. They had two live in helpers for the past two years but prior to that, only my mom needed help and that was for the past seven years. My mother suffered with diabetes retinopathy (she was blind), could not ambulate and was always quiet due to the meds she was taken. Over the past seven years, she had been in and out of the hospital several times for pneumonia. When she had the stroke in January, she lasted ten days and then passed on. You can't help but feel scared, overwhelmed and sometimes, even guilty of wanting out of it. My father became my mothers caregiver for several years before he finally agreed to get help. It's not easy but I feel I did the best I could and made them as comfortable as possible. I have no regrets. Dear Sad, my mom has been sick for many years but she lived with my dad in an apartment near my brother and I. They had two live in helpers for the past two years but prior to that, only my mom needed help and that was for the past seven years. My mother suffered with diabetes retinopathy (she was blind), could not ambulate and was always quiet due to the meds she was taken. Over the past seven years, she had been in and out of the hospital several times for pneumonia. When she had the stroke in January, she lasted ten days and then passed on.
You can’t help but feel scared, overwhelmed and sometimes, even guilty of wanting out of it. My father became my mothers caregiver for several years before he finally agreed to get help.
It’s not easy but I feel I did the best I could and made them as comfortable as possible. I have no regrets.

]]> By: Sad http://www.aradicalsabbatical.com/2009/03/25/death-and-dying/#comment-226 Sad Thu, 26 Mar 2009 22:35:52 +0000 http://www.aradicalsabbatical.com/?p=106#comment-226 It sure was a difficult ordeal you had to deal with the gradual deterioration of your mom and with the loss of your parents in a short time. I am now dealing with my own father who is on the decline so we are dealing with it day by day so it is a struggle for my mom to be a caregiver and to deal with daily matters. I find myself dealing with mortality. Scary... May I ask a question about your mom? How long did you have to deal with it? Thanks. It sure was a difficult ordeal you had to deal with the gradual deterioration of your mom and with the loss of your parents in a short time. I am now dealing with my own father who is on the decline so we are dealing with it day by day so it is a struggle for my mom to be a caregiver and to deal with daily matters. I find myself dealing with mortality. Scary… May I ask a question about your mom? How long did you have to deal with it? Thanks.

]]> By: Robyn http://www.aradicalsabbatical.com/2009/03/25/death-and-dying/#comment-225 Robyn Thu, 26 Mar 2009 03:03:05 +0000 http://www.aradicalsabbatical.com/?p=106#comment-225 What a harrowing year you've had. I can't even imagine what this was like. But your last line says it all - you have a wonderful positive outlook in life, despite everything you've been through. When you're ready to travel - there's a place to stay in NZ for you :) Cheers Robyn What a harrowing year you’ve had. I can’t even imagine what this was like. But your last line says it all - you have a wonderful positive outlook in life, despite everything you’ve been through.

When you’re ready to travel - there’s a place to stay in NZ for you :)

Cheers
Robyn

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