Watching friends lose their aging parents is always hard but when you lose a friend to an unexpected death, the loss is devastating. We are are four couples who travelled together, celebrated together and shared our most intimate secrets. Most recently, our group of 8 became 7. Two of the couples recently went on vacation. A bit of snorkeling, some good wine and beautiful walks. I received an email from H telling me she could not believe what a wonderful place it was and they were having fun.
Yesterday, I received a call, H’s husband died, either a heart attack or an aneurism. We were devastated. How could this be? 60 years young. I felt as though a part of my life had been ripped out from under me. Obviously, the death made me think of how close we all are to not knowing when and where it can happen. But losing a loved one is so frightening. It makes me realize how unprepared I am for it and how unprepared we are as a couple.
L was truly a good soul. Funloving, down to earth and a good friend to all those who sought his friendship. I will miss him terribly. I will miss his understanding of me, I will miss seeing him smile when he’s with H, I will miss seeing him with us when we are four couples. But most of all, I will just miss his being around.
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April 6th, 2008 at 12:36 am
So sorry to hear this. I’ve lost a few good friends very suddenly like this and it really literally takes the breath away from you and others around you. My heart is with you and your friends.
Robyn
April 16th, 2008 at 6:10 am
Yep– Me too. I’ve lost a few friends suddenly and a couple to cancer too. It does hurt when someone you’ve known for so long, who knows you so well dies. Again, I’m so sorry.
May 7th, 2008 at 3:35 am
I didn’t know L well, but we all felt the loss on hearing the terrible news. We can only imagine the impact of his loss on his loved ones. Everyone should be comforted by memories of wonderful times spent together.